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Recently, I have received several questions concerning the male prostate.

Q: Do men have a G-Spot?"
A: Yes. Men do have a G "Spot" just the same as women. It is called the prostate gland and is responsible for creating prostatic fluid that, with sperm from the testes, becomes the male ejaculate. Like with women, the male prostate gland completely surrounds the urethra just slightly below the base of the scrotum. For purposes of massage and pleasure, it can be reached through either the upper wall of the anus or by placing pressure from the outside at a spot at the perineum (located between the scrotum and the anal opening). A lubricant with higher viscosity than those normally used as vaginal lubricants is recommended.

While men in our culture have been reluctant to experience prostate massage due to negative ideas about anal activity, men who have had the courage to go beyond their negative programming often report great pleasure and expanded full body orgasms from prostate stimulation. There is also an argument, which has not yet been scientifically proven, that regular prostate massage can keep the gland supple and avoid hardening that may lead to higher incidents of prostate cancer.

While I find that there is never a substitute for human contact, many men feel more comfortable exploring their prostate glands on their own. The Crystal Wand can be an excellent tool for men to explore the pleasure that can come from prostate massage. - Doctor G

Orgasm Through Intercourse
Q: My wife and I have been married for over 20 years now. For the better part of that 20 years we had a limited but fairly good sex life. She was able to experience multiple orgasm with penile penetration on a somewhat regular basis.  The problem is that my wife no longer is able to climax with me alone, only with use of vibrators and/or oral stimulation.  We have become so frustrated that she now refuses to use toys, in part due to my discomfort...do you have any suggestions other than divorcing and moving on?

A: There are an infinite number of factors involved in a woman being able to reach orgasm as well as the creation of sexual desire.  Just as important as the physical component are the emotional and intellectual ones.  Intercourse is generally the most difficult way for a woman to achieve orgasm.  Additionally, the stress and tension of the difficulties between the two of you may be contributing to the issue.  Also, the pressure of her "trying" to achieve orgasm through intercourse is counterproductive.

What I would suggest is that you work with a good sex therapist to attempt to resolve the issues between you.  Simultaneously, I would suggest taking the focus off of her reaching orgasm through intercourse and put the emphasis on achieving higher states of arousal and intimacy.  If you do this, the other may simply resolve itself.

Also, I would recommend that you purchase one or more of the videotapes that we sell on how to create extraordinary sex.  Specifically, I would recommend The Lover's Guide to Sexual Ecstasy, and/or Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. - Doctor G

Sexual Desire
Q: My wife, whom I love very much, has always been extremely lacking on the sexual desire side.  For all 22 years of our married life, I have to say that most of our arguments were over her lack of desire for me sexually.  It always takes a long time to regain her trust and affection back after such discussions so I have learned to keep them as under control as possible.  Sometimes though, 10-14 day lapses in sexual activity drive me crazy.  When we have sex, I can count on my right hand the number of times that I have not been able to bring her to a real orgasm.  Sometimes that involves 30 to 45 minutes of oral stimulation or an equivalent time of penetration while she self stimulates.  She has never had an orgasm without manual stimulation and that has never bothered me. Romantic evenings away from the kids, dinners waiting for her when she arrives home from work, having the housework done by myself or a cleaning lady, even our new house, all the things that hinders others, are all done for her and yet 5-6 days are too soon for her and 12-14 days doesn't mean that there will be   sex between us. I've had her on vitamins for most of our married life and she trusts me to give her what she needs.  However, none of these products have changed any part of her sexual desire or increased the intensity of her sexual response during intercourse.  I would love to think that your products, combination of products, or administration of products would help change this pattern.  All I know is that her two favorite periods are at gestation and the night before her period begins.  And God help me if something prevents us from having those times from being perfect in every way or I lose my chance.

A: There are an infinite number of factors involved in the creation of sexual desire.  Just as important as the physical component are the emotional and intellectual ones.  People's perceived self worth, self judgments, sexual upbringing including information from family and peers all contribute to our sexual identity and the circumstances under which we get turned on.  Also, people just have different desire levels and it is important that, in a relationship, neither party blame or make their partner wrong just for the fact that they have different desire levels.  Arguments were over who is responsible for lack of sexual desire will be totally counterproductive.

There is a very good book on this subject that I would recommend that you and your wife read.  It is "Passionate Marriage" by Dr. David Schnarch and can be found at most major bookstores.  After reading it, you and your wife might want to consider consulting a qualified sex therapist or sexologist to explore these issues.

Also, I would recommend that you purchase one or more of the videotapes that we sell on how to create more closeness and intimacy and enhance your sexual relationship.  Specifically, I would recommend The Lover's Guide: Advanced Sexual Techniques, The Lover's Guide to Sexual Ecstasy and Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. - Doctor G

Q: Hi, I'm a 25 yr old woman who has been on the pill for the past 9 years. I have no sexual interest or desire for anyone, including my boyfriend. There really are no problems in our relationship...except for the fact that I have no interest in having sex. It's just not something I ever think about, nothing from romance to porn makes me want to have sex. This has been going on for years. My doctor has given me Wellbutrin hoping that the sexual side effects would help, that was months ago and still nothing. Is there anything you can suggest?
A: Thank you for your excellent question. I can really empathize with what you're saying but unless you actually have low testosterone, which can be tested for, Intrinsa is not the answer. There are a number of other areas where scientists are working with various neurotransmitters to see if chemistry can impact low female sexual desire. Personally, I still believe that, just like people born with physicial disabilities, it is possible to expand your potential and make better use of what we have. For you I would specifically suggest that you read Dr. Patricia Taylor's book, Expanded Orgasm or view the video, Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! Also, you and your boyfriend might want to consider having Dr. Taylor and I do an Introductory Evaluation. The cost is only $399 and well worth every penny. - Doctor G

Sex and Relaxation
Q:
I am wondering if sexual intercourse relieves stress in males and females? As a male I always feel warm and positive after a good sex session with my wife. She does not share my view on the subject, but I remember reading something in the past that women tend to have a glow about them if they have sex on a regular basis (I think it was two to three times a week.) What are your thoughts on this matter? Thank you kindly
A:Thank you for your very interesting question. It is my experience that often men and women respond to sexual intercourse and the physicality of sex in very different ways. Through the challenges of life and other stresses, we can become very contracted in our day to day experience. Sexuality can be a wonderful way to relax, release and feel our true nature once again. For a man, the chemical and neurological effects of an ejaculatory orgasm from intercourse can be very pleasurable and relaxing, not dissimilar to the feeling from eating chocolate. Men tend to have shorter sexual response cycles and can reach orgasm and those feelings much faster than most women. For women to experience the healing and relaxing that great sex can bring, they must find a way to move beyond the limiting programming that society has imposed on our sexuality. So that rather than a duty or another "thing to do" after a long day, sexuality can be a wonderful playground to relax, have fun and let go in loving intimacy. Women not only generally require more physical stimulation but also require more emotional satisfaction before they can have that regular glow about them.

These are principles that we teach (B.L.I.S.S.) in working with people to develop a sexual relationship that is an expression of their love and caring for another human being. We also offer video tapes that deal with these issues. Specifically, I would recommend The Lover's Guide: Advanced Sexual Techniques, The Lover's Guide to Sexual Ecstasy and Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. - Doctor G

Vibrators and Orgasm
Q: My wife can't climax without a vibrator and she wants to know what she can do to have a climax without a vibrator.  Will this Crystal Wand help or does she need some other kind of help?  I want to order your Vigorex Femme, will this help or what do we need to do to help her have a climax without a vibrator?  Love to hear from you on this.

A: This is a question that we see more and more as women have given themselves permission to explore sex toys.  It is absolutely a woman's right to use a vibrator if she wishes.  However, like with all choices in life, there is often a consequence.  What frequently happens is that the woman's clitoris becomes desensitized from the high vibratory rate of a vibrator.  No human action can possibly match the intensity of stimulation that the vibrator gives.  At B.L.I.S.S., we teach a woman to resensitize her clitoris and entire vaginal area by learning the pleasures of a more subtle stimulation.  This can and may include such things as her working with a special hose attachment in the bathtub which puts out a gentle but steady stream of water so that she can become used to the subtler pressure and learn which spots in her genitalia feel most pleasurable to the gentler pressure.  Also, we teach breathing techniques to help her reach and even sustain orgasm for a longer period of time.

The Crystal Wand is an inanimate object made of acrylic plastic.  It is good for reaching the G-Spot, particularly during self-pleasuring but again cannot keep up with the mechanical power of a vibrator.  The Wand would be an excellent training tool for G-Spot stimulation after the vagina has been resensitized.

As for Vigorex Femme, it certainly would help in increasing sensation to her genitals but it is not the answer by itself.  The bottom line is that people must realize that no human touch can approach the intensity of the vibrator and choices may need to be made as to frequency of use of a vibrator and whether it is important enough to develop a more personal human contact way to orgasm. - Doctor G

Honeymoon Infections
Q:
Hi, I am a female who ejaculates, and I have been so happy reading your research project. It leaves me with one question however: When I have had a series of orgasms gushing close to a liter, I will still have to go to the toilet and urinate (quite a lot) afterwards. How does that fit into your findings? After perfect sex, I often get problems with my bladder, I have to pee a hundred times a day, get honeymoon infections and more. I am so happy to read about the pushing out effect as I have just recently realized the connection myself.
A: Since the female prostate (G-Spot) completely surrounds your urethra, it is absolutely natural that you would have the urge to urinate even after massive ejaculation. The honeymoon infections are another matter that I am concerned about. Normally, ejaculation, particularly voluminous ejaculation, has the effect of flushing the urethra. While there have been some theories that there can be an emotional source to "honeymoon infections," most often they are caused by bacteria being forced back up into the urethra through pounding intercourse or, perhaps even, from vigorous manual stimulation. I would suggest that you see a qualified urologist on this matter and make sure that, either with manual or penis stimulation, that good hygiene is observed so as to lower the possibility of unfriendly bacteria going back up into the urethra. - Doctor G

"Giving" Her An Orgasm
Q: I am wondering how to give my girlfriend a great orgasm.  What do you recommend?

A: My first comment is that men do not "give" women orgasms.  Only women can be responsible for their orgasms.  What a man can do is to be a skilled and sensitive lover and create an environment in which the woman feels safe to experience her sensuality and sexuality without expectations.  Trying to create orgasm only causes additional stress, which is counterproductive.

My view is that, in most cases, so-called sexual "problems" are a result of learning deficits.  In other words, given what most people are taught about sexuality in school, by their families and peers, their anxieties and difficulties are absolutely reasonable and understandable.  With an open mind and an open heart it is possible to create a sexual relationship that is truly a reflection of your love and caring for each other.

What I would recommend is that you purchase one or more of the videotapes that we sell on how to create extraordinary sex.  Specifically, I would recommend The Lover's Guide: Advanced Sexual Techniques, The Lover's Guide to Sexual Ecstasy or Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. - Doctor G

 


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ERECTILE ISSUES

Male Multiple Orgasm
Q: Is it true that women have better orgasms than men?  If so, is it possible to become a multi-orgasmic man and have higher intensity orgasms?
A: I feel that it is a broad generality to say that women have better orgasms than men.  Better is a subjective word but I would say that women generally seem more willing to discuss ways to improve and even expand their experience of orgasm than men.  If you truly wish to become a multi-orgasmic man, I would suggest that you purchase our audiotapes, Total Ejaculation Control and A Guided Erotic Journey for Men. - Doctor G

Male Ejaculatory Control
Q:
I am having problems lasting long enough to get my girlfriend fully pleasured. Is there anything I can do to lengthen how long I can last in bed?
Q:How can I delay my ejaculation and prolong my orgasms, thereby being able to pleasure my partner better?
Q:I don't have a hard time getting an erection, but I have a hard time coming to an orgasm during intercourse with my girlfriend. I have no problem when I masturbate, and I held off of that for a month hoping that that was the problem. Is there anything wrong with me or am I just not very sensitive? If that is the case, is there anything that I can do to make my penis more sensitive?
Q:How can I make my husband ejaculate quicker?
Q:How do you improve the sensitivity of your penis? Staying power has never been a problem for me, but I do have difficulty having orgasms during intercourse. I attribute this to a lack of penile sensitivity. Is there anything I can do to change this?

These questions are about men and how they can control or delay ejaculation. Some saying they "come too fast" while others have trouble orgasming at all. Since some men are taking medications that retard ejaculation and there can be other physical sources to these problems, all men should make sure that they have discussed their situation with a knowledgeable physician. However, most of the time these problems are not physically based but are simply results of the lack of information and education that most of us had in forming our sexual patterns.

One thread that runs through these questions as well as others are the painful emotional and relationship consequences of not dealing with these issues. Men can learn how to control their ejaculation, while at the same time increasing sensitivity and even experience multiple orgasms, with and without ejaculation. I can testify to this because I learned how and the process is not a lot different than other disciplines that involve mind over body control. Some examples would include the ability to slow the heart rate through yoga and meditation.

The first step in transformation is recognizing that change is possible. I believe that we are evolutionary beings and have only explored a small percentage of our ultimate sexual potential. For men, just like with women, ejaculation and orgasm are not the same and it is totally possible to have one with or without the other. Obtaining ejaculatory mastery not only can help create more satisfying relationships but can also enhance and expand a man's self esteem. The kinds of exercises and techniques that are offered at DoctorG.com can train men how to obtain ejaculatory mastery. I highly recommend the exploration of these techniques.

Q: I recently underwent a physical examination and, because I am 54 and have not ever had a prostate exam, they insisted I should. The family doctor examined me and, afterwards, I was going to ask what exactly she had done but did not. Up to this point in my life, I have had a wonderful sex life. My orgasms were powerful, multiple and I never had any problems of any kind. Since this examination, each orgasm has become less and less and now I have difficulty achieving an orgasm. If I am successful, it is disappointing. I have no problem with erections, my desire is the same, my orgasms are just not what they used to be. Everyone says it is because of my age. Do you think it could be anything else and do you have any suggestions?
A: The fact that your orgasms would change so much after a simple rectal exam brings up an enormous red flag for me. I don't know if you also had a blood test for Prostate Specific Antigens or any indication of BPH, but I definitely would recommend your consulting a doctor with some training in human sexuality, possibly a urologist, to rule out all physiological possibilities for such a rapid change. Beyond that, there are an infinite number of factors involved in the creation of our perception of orgasm. Just as important as the physical component are the emotional and intellectual ones. It's also possible that concern about your prostate health plus stimulation of your prostate may have triggered an emotional reaction. In women, such emotional reactions often occur after the first time they have had their prostates (aka g-spots) stimulated. - DoctorG

Medication and erections and ejaculation
Q:
I was wondering what I could take to correct sexual dysfunction due to the taking of Zoloft.  What would be safe to get harder erections that last longer?
A: Zoloft and other antidepressants have a reputation for retarding orgasm. Vigorex Forte may or may not be helpful in this situation but it can't hurt to try.  Vigorex products are homeopathic formulations that contain nothing injurious to health.  They have been taken by hypertensives, diabetics, men on blood pressure medication, Methadone and Antabuse.  Despite the fact that there is no indication whatsoever that it could be harmful or injurious to anyone, If you have a medical condition and you are under medical supervision, you are advised to inform your physician of your desire to take this product.  If you have a known allergy to oats or lactose, you may experience your allergic symptoms in response to taking this product.  - Doctor G

Effects of stress and medications on erections and ejaculation
Q: Although there seems to be very little information available on the subject, I know that there are a lot of men with troubles ejaculating or orgasiming at all.  This is especially so if they are on antidepressive or hypertensive medications. A couple of years ago I was at a Veteran's (military) help course for those with PTSD.  During an informal late night session, all the men (26?) stated that retarded ejaculation or orgasmic inability had been a major problem. The youngest to have had this problem with medication had been 24 at the time.  The problem persisted well past the supposed drug half life periods and started consistently before any effects of the medications were supposed to be felt.  Some drugs that are written up as having no sexual side effects were found by all the men to be to blame.  This was a couples help course and the wives stated that it wasn't just their partners imaginations.

All but one man had used Caverject injections for a period of time to counter loss of libido (primarily lack of interest) due to this problem as well as impotence side effects from other medication.  Many of the men had simply stopped taking medication, although still obtaining the scripts, and simply flushed medication down the sink.  More than one of the veterans had faced assault charges when "off" their medication but preferred that to the side effects. Interestingly, the doctors there that night were most surprised at what they were told about our sexual side effects.  They were especially surprised that our partners confirmed what was said.  Some of the partners were in another group and independently confirmed the problems.

Do you know of any literature or assistance for this problem?  I cannot go off the medication and I will be on it for life.  As I am only in my thirties, this is a great concern.  It seems that all the medications I have tried have this effect on me. I can give my wife a lot of pleasure when I am able to get an erection because I have no trouble with physically keeping going.  Erections can take quite a while to attain but I think that is at least partly psychological. Orgasm & ejaculation, however, can take two or three hours of intense masturbation.  This time period seems to occur with most medications.  I do not masturbate all the time but do get extremely frustrated and then seem to have almost a compulsion to "come".
A: You have proposed a very interesting but complex set of questions and I will try to separate out the various issues.  First, there is the question of the effect of psychotropic drugs on erectile function.  Then there is the question of the effect of anxiety, whether it is from fear of not being able to obtain and/or maintain an erection or from severe emotional distress caused by things such as PTSD.  Often, the line between the two can become blurred and both can be contributing factors to erectile dysfunction.

From a psychological standpoint, the traditional treatment for erectile dysfunction and/or retarded ejaculation has been to attempt to lower the level of stress, trying to obtain or maintain erection and/or have an ejaculatory orgasm.  This has usually been done by de-emphasizing intercourse and teaching people other non-coital methods of sexual expression so that the anxiety will be lessened and erection more likely to appear and remain.  In the case of retarded ejaculation, I would like to point out that many men are just as distressed that they ejaculate too soon.  Through the use of guided imagery and breathing techniques, men can be trained to have exquisite multiple orgasms without ejaculation.  Also, the breathing and guided imagery techniques often cause relaxation and a lessening of anxiety.

On our website, we carry two such audiotapes, Total Ejaculation Control and A Guided Erotic Journey for Men that you might want to try. - Doctor G

Penis Size
Q: I have a question.  How can I get my penis to be longer and bigger ? Are there some specific curative, therapy or recipe to get better?  Please Help me!!!

A: Thank you for your question but I'm afraid that I have bad news.  You can't without seriously desecrating your body through surgery.  There is an old saying that you might consider. "It's not how long you make it but how you make it long."  Try to be the best and most considerate and caring lover you can be and you will do fine.  Sex is about a lot more than a large or hard penis. - Doctor G

Premature Ejaculation
Q: I am a 32 yr. old male and seem to have a problem in that I am ejaculating quite fast and would like to know if you can recommend either a book or some advice in order to slow down my spermicidal ejaculation when making love to my wife.

A: You are still quite young at 32 and this is a very common male issue.   The problem of "ejaculating quite fast" can be managed with some basic educational understandings.  We have an excellent audiotape, Total Ejaculation Control, which can be purchased through our website. - Doctor G

More than a Stiff Penis
Q: I have taken your Vigorex product for several months and there is an increased urge to have sex.  My testicles have a sense of fullness and I have a strong urge to have sex.  The issue is that I don't seem to be able to keep an erection very long and I am searching for the feeling of a throbbing penis.  My gal is not especially sexual and there is no foreplay.  That can decrease the time for an erection to blossom.  Sexual Trivia says a man under 40 can achieve an erection is 10 seconds.  I remember I didn't need foreplay 6-7 years back. I am 52 now.  It takes much more effort now.  Is there a chemical the body produces from the brain that stimulates the penis to enlarge?  By the way, what is your experience with the penis enlargers?  These are the ones that are suction devices which are said to expand the blood engorged tissues of the penis, much like muscle building?  Are they effective and building the blood capacity in one's penis.  Their advertisement says they can enlarge the penis by 2"-4".  Comments?

Anyway, the bottom line is that I like sex and want to have it a lot.  Your pills do the trick of increasing desire and my gonads can attest to the sensation.  My cholesterol is 145, my heart rate is under seventy, my testosterone is within normal.  I need my penis to reach full capacity.
A: Since you are asking for my opinion, the first thing that I must say is that sex is about a lot more than a stiff erection and intercourse.  Personally, I dislike the term "foreplay."  The sexual acts that we label as "foreplay" create an assumption that intercourse is the goal.  In addition to the natural physiological process that takes place with aging, anxiety caused by worrying about losing an erection will also effect its duration.  I would suggest that you just be in the moment and enjoy every sensation of whatever sexual activity that you are involved in.

Everyone has a right to pursue sexuality in any way that they wish but I must tell you from my considerable experience that you and your partner are missing a lot by bypassing the range of pleasurable sexual activities and going straight to intercourse.  There are an infinite number of factors involved in the creation of sexual desire.  Just as important as the physical component are the emotional and intellectual ones.  Perhaps your partner would feel more sexual if you were spending more time just touching and caressing and building the passion. 

As for the question of the so-called penis enlargers, my opinion is that they are a total waste of time and money.  You have stated that you have no trouble getting an erection but the problem is in maintaining it and your desire to feel a "throbbing penis."  Physiologically, we have learned that nitric oxide is the key ingredient in preventing the reversal of blood flow and loss of erection.  A cock ring will serve the same purpose in preventing blood flow reversal.  Chemically, Viagra works towards that same principal as does a product that we carry called ProSexual Plus

Another suggestion that I would have for you is that you consider purchasing a videotape and audiotape that we sell on our website.  I strongly believe that the video The Lover's Guide: Advanced Sexual Techniques would really be helpful for you and your partner.  I would also suggest the audiotape A Guided Erotic Journey for Men which will teach you how to have multiple orgasms with or without a stiff penis. - Doctor G

Dealing With Condom Anxiety
Q: I need your help. I have a question, and I pray you could answer it. Every time I put on a condom before sex I lose my erection. This always happens and I need to know how to stop this problem. I am 20 years old so I can't figure out what is wrong with me? I have been to a urologist and he gave me some viagra samples. All that stuff did was make me real hot and give me a hugh headache. I get erections without a condom but they usually don't last that long. This is a big problem because sometimes I have unprotected sex with my girlfriend. I don't want her to get pregnant! I have also tried Viromax and that has not worked either. What do I do ...please help.
A: Congratulations on being aware of the importance of safer sex practices. You are already halfway home to the solution I have a number of suggestions for you. First, it would be helpful if you could reduce your anxiety about the issue because fear only adds to the problem. I know that that is easier to say than to do but you need to start a position of not making yourself wrong. It is possible to make the whole process of putting on the condom more sensual and erotic. By adding play to the activity, you can also help alleviate the anxiety.

It is also important not to make intercourse the goal. I even suggest to people that the lack or loss of an erection means that you are not yet ready for intercourse. If you lose your erection, just view it as an excuse to have fun by beginning again and engaging in other sexual activities until you are so aroused that putting on the condom sensually becomes inconsequential.

On a more practical note, I would suggest using Durex Avanti condoms. They are made out of polyurethane rather than latex and are much more sensitive and natural feeling. Also, I would think that Viagra could be useful. However, headaches were frequently reported in the Viagra clinical trials and I would recommend taking an analgesic such as aspirin or tylenol simultaneously with the Viagra. - Doctor G

Young and inexperienced
Q: Hi, I am 18 yrs old, and I am having a problem.  Before my girlfriend and I have sex, I have no problem getting erect.  However, when it comes to actual sex, I do not get erect or aroused.  I want to have sex with her and nervousness doesn't seem to be the problem. What should I do?

A: My view is that, in most cases, so-called sexual "problems" are a result of learning deficits.  In other words, given what most people are taught about sexuality in school, by their families and peers, their anxieties and difficulties are absolutely reasonable an understandable.  On top of that, you are both very young but with an open mind and an open heart it is possible to create a sexual relationship that is truly a reflection of your love and caring for each other.

What I would recommend is that you purchase one or more of the video/DVDs that we sell on how to create extraordinary sex.  Specifically, I would recommend The Lover's Guide: Advanced Sexual Techniques, The Lover's Guide to Sexual Ecstasy, or Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy. - Doctor G

Strengthen Ejaculate
Q: My question to you is about male ejaculation.  Is there anything I can take orally to enhance my ejaculation?  I am not looking to increase the sperm count necessarily but want to increase the volume of semen when I do ejaculate.  My girlfriend enjoys it when we hold off for a couple of days and the quantity seems to rise by itself, but would like to experience large quantities of semen when I reach orgasm more frequently.  Any advice would be greatly appreciated.  I have heard that bee's pollen would do the trick but not really sure if this is true are just a wives tale.

A: I know of no proven treatment that will increase your ejaculate.  Your ejaculate is a combination of semen from the testicles and prostatic fluid and both tend to put out less fluid as you get older.  As you pointed out, not ejaculating for several days will increase the volume. This delay combined with Tantric sexual practices can greatly increase your pleasure and you can even learn to have multiple orgasms without ejaculation.

You might want to consider buying our videotape, Ancient Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy, or our audiotapes, Total Ejaculation Control and A Guided Journey for Men, which is about male multiple orgasm. - Doctor G

Surrogate Partner
Q: I am a virgin and I think I need the help of a surrogate partner.  Can you help me?

A: Being a virgin or not yet having experienced the miracle of partnered sex is one of the areas most responsive to work with a surrogate partner and supervising therapist.  I suggest that you check with the International Professional Surrogates Association (IPSA) and see if they know of any qualified sex therapists or surrogate partners anywhere in your area. - Doctor G